How do you help a cynical client?
Convinced that therapy will fail, the limp handshake and persistent frown makes for a chilly introduction. It is this aura of distrust that can damage their wellbeing and relationships.
“A cynic is not merely one who reads bitter lessons from the past, he is one who is prematurely disappointed in the future.”
Sydney J. Harris (1964, ch. 7)
However, with dedicated time and effort, it is possible to help our clients foster hope and learn to recognize that cynicism is often not warranted nor helpful (Feltman & Mwangi, 2025; Frumer et al., 2019).
This article explores how to change clients’ cynical stance and help them build hope over time. It also offers strategies supporting ongoing growth and transformation.
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